Change is the
only element that is constant on the face of the earth. Many a time, lot of
people have asked this question; "Can’t I change my lover in
our relationship?" or "I want to date that guy
because I love him, and want to change him for good, is that bad?" To
enter a relationship for love is one
thing, to enter the same for the cause of change another;
but when both love and change are in the fray, that's an entirely different
ball game already.
Love they say is
unconditional, and I really don't doubt it.This means that love does not oppose
any action or reaction from both the giver and
Recipient. It is given without any does and don’ts. When
you claim to be in love with someone, and you still have it at the back of your
mind to
correct a part of that person, either socially,
behaviorally, or otherwise, then you have yourself conflicted on your course of
action; or don’t know where
you are headed.
The term
'CHANGE' only comes to being in love,when the propagator takes the other party
just as they are originally,not pulling or pushing on
flaws,but rather,letting go of the hurts received from
the after-effects of these flaws,and later pointing these flaws,little by
little,one by one in hushed,
subdued and soothing tones,so as not to aggravate issues.
These few tips
should summarize my main points,including those not put down above.
* Love and change should not be moduled up into a single
lesson; i.e they are not to be part of the priorites of entering a
relationship.
* Learn to love,rather than change,and let the change
come from you first.
* No single man is an island of perfection.Even the
Messiahnic Jesus Christ was not perfect alone,except he brought both God the
Father,and the Holy
Spirit into the fray.
* Perfection is not a one time arrival.You get there
through gradual processing and lessons that must be learnt.
* When trying to correct someone to change, especially
your partner or spouse, know that the softer you go, the deeper you'll be able
to penetrate.
* Never expose the weaknesses of your partner directly or
indirectly to others. It’s your personal discovery, and you should be able to
work out a definite
solution.
* Learn to forebear with whatever setback you may
encounter while trying to help your partner [No true success has not had its
own fair share of failures].
* Learn from the mistakes of others.[It's the surest way
to move faster to your preferred destination in record time.]
*Be the best you can be, not a Mr./Miss Perfect, but the
best you are, and with time you'll see a very tremendous and enchanting change
evolving in your
partner.
* You must cultivate the virtues of tolerance and
patience.Without these,fights would break out between you at the slightest
provocation.
* Whatever the time frame it takes,know that love
conquers all doubts,flaws,fears,and everything else.[But that's when the LOVE
is TRUE].
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